I have a 14yr old son who has a diagnosis of autistic spectrum disorder, ADHD and Tourette’s syndrome. He attends a special needs school which caters for the whole of Oxfordshire so he doesn’t know any other teenagers locally, this means life for Calvin socially is very difficult and isolating. He spends much of his time alone on his computer.
Having the teenage provision at Thomley has made a huge difference, increasing his confidence and self-esteem and allowing him the chance to socialise in an environment where he is not judged or made fun of and where he can truly be his unique and quirky self. Calvin has made a few friends that he regularly likes to meet up with at Thomley on Saturdays and during the school holidays. He enjoys spending time in the teenage den discussing and playing computer games or just chatting with people his own age. The teenage planner has given him the chance to try new activities and learn new skills including making sushi, which has confirmed his belief that sushi shouldn’t be seen or eaten!!
I love the freedom and independence Calvin can have around the centre knowing that he is safe and nobody will be judging him or me as a parent. Thomley is essential for mine and my family’s sanity. When I am at Thomley it feels like a weight has lifted off my shoulders. I don’t have to spend time excusing my son’s behaviour to other parents as we are all in similar positions. Thomley is a place where I have built up a valuable network of friends that understand the challenges I face. A cup of tea and a good laugh or a cry provide essential support.
My daughter and her friends regularly request to come to Thomley so they can play and take part in activities, my daughter really loves the fact that she is seen as an individual and not just Calvin’s sister.
The youth group on a Thursday evening held in conjunction with Barnardo’s provides two hours of valuable respite where I can spend quality time with his sister. Calvin only agrees to go to the youth group because it is held at Thomley and is supported by Thomley staff that he knows well and feels safe with. The youth worker provides interesting activities and incorporates interests that he has including all the latest crazes.